What is the purpose of this season?

How can you hold space for yourself in “DYING” with ACCEPTANCE?

REMEMBER… God is no less God in the dark than He is in the light… in my experience we can see things in the dark that are hidden in the light. Often, that seeing is what paves the way for TRUST.

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LEARNING TO WALK IN THE DARK (“DYING”)

There is so much FEAR in the unknown.

You might be walking through a part of your life where very little makes sense.

It likely feels very dark, and painful in ways you couldn’t have imagined. You might be clinging to what feels the most familiar.

My personal seasons of dying are marked by a distinct “but wait…I’m trying so hard but life still doesn’t make sense… and OUCH this is gut-wrenching.” There have been numerous times where I haven’t been able to “see” what is next.

What I’ve found is that patterns, beliefs, relationships, things I was clinging to for identity or meaning… they all had to die first.

There isn’t space to see what is next…to break FREE, when we are still clinging to what was.

You are not alone…may you see glimmers of love as you BREAKTHROUGH from fear to TRUST.

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“May you be standing firm like a flourishing tree…deeply rooted

…bearing fruit in every season”

Psalm 1

I care deeply that you do this work.

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Journal Prompts

Start Here

What is the area of your life that you lack the most clarity in? How does this feel to you? (Frustrating, hopeless, not sure, etc etc).

Go Deeper

Are there ways you believe that you have messed up your life? What can you admit to yourself today, on paper, that stops you from believing GOOD for your future?

The next layer of the onion

What messages did you receive from your community, religion, parents, and/or neighborhood about your value as a woman?

I’d love to hold space for you

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Your guide to living with intention IN THIS SEASON

DO THE WORK

  • In this season, you might feel “stuck” - paralyzed and unable to move. However, leaning into the stillness is where we can learn to SEE. If you need help with this - book a call.

    P.S. Tulsi tea (adaptogenic) is a powerful ritual

  • Our kidneys are associated with bottling up emotions of anger and bitterness. These emotions are a default when our lives feel out of our own control (fear). In stillness and gentle support we can forgive ourselves and others. Recommended: citrus oils in our water along with lemongrass applied topically.

  • Our nose is the only place where our vagus nerve meets the outside world. Our vagus nerve transmits signals from our body to our brain. Because our body holds everything that has ever happened to us, we can access information about root cause via our olfactory bulb.

  • Psalm 31 - Reflect on how the psalmist feels isolated, rejected, and is wavering back and forth between fear and trust. This is such a human experience.

    Psalm 55 - Read how the psalmist would rather fly away and escape than practice stillness. This is the work.

THE BLEND

From fear to “TRUST”

What does it look like to move from fear and step into TRUST? This blend will assist you in breaking free from patterns and beliefs that no longer serve you.

REVIEW THE JOURNEY

(be where you are to get to where you are meant to be)

  • Awakening.

    A realization that life can't go on as it has been. Often sparked by an event. Often the most difficult because we can't see hope up ahead.

    Go to Awakening

  • Dying.

    Learning to walk in the dark. Acute pain. Marked by clinging to familiar routines and an uncovering of beliefs that may no longer work. Everything is breaking to make space for what’s to come.

    Go to dying

  • New Hope.

    The darkness is fading. Your body, mind and spirit have room to notice newness. You are noticing who you are surrounded by and have developed new patterns of living. Space to notice was created in the breaking.

    Go to New Hope

  • Thrive.

    Clearer vision. A commitment to creating a life you love. Filled with purpose. Emotions are welcomed because they are seen as information rather than decision makers. You feel known - first and foremost by yourself.

    Go to Thrive

SOMATIC RELEASE

In every moment of every day our brain/body are watching for cues that may signal danger so that it can respond.

Commonly understood as “fight or flight” our body shifts from a state of rest into a state of ACTION. 

Unfortunately, many of us are walking around with trauma stored in our bodies, lowering our threshold and capacity for life’s stressors.  We shift TOO quickly and then get stuck in “survival mode.”  

What does it look like for a human to heal?  AKA, have a regulated nervous system with capacity for REAL life? 

“The greatest gift we can give to another is a regulated nervous system.”

Our parasympathetic nervous system is responsible for rest, digestion, nourishment, and healing.

It is controlled primarily by cranial nerve 10, commonly known as our vagus nerve.

The vagus nerve serves as an on-off switch for our fight or flight response.  It is responsible for shifting the gears back and forth between our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems.  

The vagus nerve ALSO is responsible for two way communication between our body and our brain.  

For this reason, there is a lot of effort being spent right now in understanding how to stimulate our vagus nerve, effectively returning our body to a state that allows for healing.  Our body can NOT heal when we are in survival mode.  There simply isn’t energy to spare.  What does it look like to activate our vagus nerve, gently coaxing our body into a safe state where healing is possible?

The ONLY PLACE our vagus nerve meets the outside world is through our olfactory bulb.

Hold up, WHAT?

80% of the signals that are sent by the vagus nerve are BODY TO BRAIN, with only 20% being BRAIN TO BODY.

If we want to understand what our body needs… it is sending a floodgate of information to our brain through the vagus nerve.

We can access this information through our olfactory bulb.

Once I understood this, I understood that the aromas my nose is drawn to is actually information about what my BODY NEEDS to return to a state of healing.

Releasing trapped emotions is possible through the use of dōTERRA essential oils.

The work is simple, but we get to actually do it.

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SEASON OF NEW HOPE

Breakthrough feels like a waves of relief.

In the space YOU created (good job doing the work), you can now notice what IS: glimmers of HOPE.

Learn to listen to the whispers that you are worthy and are a gift.

  • "How did you learn how to work with women like me? You’re really good at your job. I feel more normal than I have in a long time."

  • "I never expected that to come up for me. This was so unexpected. I wouldn’t have given myself permission… You have a gift."

  • "Stephanie created a beautiful space for me in moving forward in healing a relationship, both with myself and my husband. "

  • "Stephanie is who I reach out to when I am stuck or in a swirl. Not only does she hold me high to my own values she has the unique ability of asking incredible questions"

  • "Fun, loving, present, Steph stands for you, holding space for you, very transparent and intuitive."

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  • Breakthrough issues around worthiness - she will take you through an exercise that unlocks momentum.